Whether in Washington, another state or anywhere in the world, the way you cope with divorce can have a drastic effect on your life. Children of divorcing parents can follow the following helpful tips for living a productive life through this trying time.
Remember that it’s not your fault
Children often blame themselves for their parents’ separation or divorce, but it’s important to remember that the decision to separate or divorce is made by the parents and is not the child’s responsibility.
Express your feelings
It’s essential to have an outlet for your emotions. This outlet could be talking to a therapist, a friend or writing in a journal.
Keep a routine
During a time of change and uncertainty, it can be helpful to maintain a sense of normalcy by sticking to a daily routine as much as possible.
Stay in touch with both parents
Even if you live with one parent, make an effort to stay in touch with the other parent through phone calls, text messages or video chats.
Seek support from others
Whether it’s friends, family, a school counselor, or a therapist, it’s important to have a support system during this difficult time.
Avoid blame
Try not to blame either parent for the separation or divorce. This can be a difficult task, but it can help you to focus on your own healing and growth.
Be patient
The process of separating or divorcing can take time, and it’s essential to be patient with yourself and your parents.
Take care of yourself
Make sure to take care of your physical and emotional well-being by eating well, getting enough sleep and engaging in activities you enjoy.
Keep an open mind
The future may look different than you imagined, but try to keep an open mind and be open to new opportunities.
Know your rights
No matter how young a child may be, knowing your legal rights or the legal process can help you deal with difficult situations such as domestic violence.
Dealing with parents’ divorce
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experience of separation or divorce is different, and there is no right or wrong way to feel. Seek help if you need it and be kind and patient with yourself.
