No two divorces look the same, and co-parenting agreements are similar. What works for one family may not work for another, and many parents devise ingenious solutions to the challenges of co-parenting. A popular new strategy is to engage in a “nesting” arrangement to solve issues with moving children between two separate residences.
Instead of the traditional situation where the children move between both parents’ residences, a nesting arrangement has the children stay in one house while the parents rotate in and out, as per Psychology Today.
How is this helpful?
The biggest benefit to nesting is that it provides a high amount of security and continuity for the children. Divorce can be very difficult on children, particularly if it involves a lot of moving and a lack of consistency. Nesting can be a good way for parents to take the time they need to make decisions about post-divorce living situations while not disrupting the children’s lives.
Another benefit to nesting is that it may be a good economic compromise. If you live in an expensive area, you may not be able to afford to maintain a household as a single parent. Nesting allows both parents to contribute to maintaining the family home and keeps the children in familiar surroundings and the same school system.
Where do the parents live?
This depends on the arrangement. Sometimes the parent who is not in the nesting house will live with other family and friends. Sometimes the parents agree to maintain a separate residence for the off-duty parent.
Usually, nesting is a temporary arrangement since it is likely the parents are going to want to establish independent permanent residences. However, in some situations parents have continued nesting arrangements for years.