Most people believe that it is easy to identify domestic abuse, especially if it is happening in your own relationship. The truth is, many victims of abuse do not recognize the signs when they are happening to them because of the mental impact abusive spouses can have on their partners.
That is why knowing the signs of domestic abuse is so crucial. If you are able to identify problematic patterns in your marriage, you will also be able to take the proper steps to address them.
In some relationships, it is normal for one spouse to take financial responsibility. However, it is not normal for a spouse to restrict the flow of money to the other spouse. This can entail questioning a spouse about all purchases made in great detail, or providing money in the form of an allowance. Married couples should also encourage one another to be financially independent via gainful employment. If your spouse prohibits you from having a job, it is likely a matter of financial control.
Emotional support is another essential component of a healthy marriage. Bullying behaviors are not supportive and actually serve to tear a person down so the abuser has greater control over them. Bullying can be verbal, meaning your partner criticizes or insults you, or accuses you of creating problems in the marriage. Abusers also use more threatening tactics, such as breaking things or punching walls in the home to intimidate you.
Unfortunately, physical mistreatment is another common occurrence in domestic abuse. Even if it is not currently a factor, other signs of abuse can precede instances of domestic violence. In addition to punching, kicking, or slapping, your spouse is committing physical abuse if they prevent you from accessing important health care or stop you from meeting your basic needs, like food and water.